Until a few days ago I was one of the lucky people to still have their parents at my age. My father went on his great journey that he seemed to be preparing for, for the past 9 months.
He taught me a lot during his life, but the most important lesson to me was his death. Leaving our world by falling asleep is exactly what I would like to do as well. Remains to be seen if I was a good student and if I can follow in his footsteps!
While death is all around us, it is something that frightens many. I do not want to say that I am indifferent; to lose friends or a parent is a really painful process. However, I am also aware of the process of life, death and rebirth as nature presents it to us.
During my shamanic training, we were also taught about the dying process, and I always enjoyed leaving this body ever so softly and coming back again, as if I was putting on and taking off one of my beloved outfits.
The older we get, the more we get used to this outfit. I really do love my life, but at the same time, all I do in my work is preparing for my great transition. My preparation is to go with as little luggage as possible. This means that I am facing my issues, one by one. I learned to stop blaming someone else for what happens to me, to stop shifting the guilt off of me, and instead I ask myself “what is the lesson to be learned here?”, “How can I respond differently next time?”. Sometimes I find this process easy and in other instances it takes me an extended period of time. Listening to my emotional states and taking my feelings and body sensations seriously is another way of clearing out old behaviors, old guilt and old guidelines.
The dying process is the ultimate ‘letting go’ that we can experience. We can gauge how well we would deal with this final act by taking an introspective look into how we deal with letting go of every-day, mundane things, stuff we no longer need.
How or why do I hold on to what became familiar to me, even if it is not good anymore for me?
And then, when I finally let go of something that does not feed me anymore, a behavior, a way of being and doing things, can I live with the emptiness after, or do I fill it immediately with something new?
Anything but emptiness?
Being empty, having no agenda, nothing to achieve, nothing to prove is the ultimate luxury for me. This luxury I grant myself more and more often!
I spent a few days at the birthplace of my father after his passing, and there one of my brothers created this incredible garden. Now, in autumn, the garden has a few flowering plants left, with most of them preparing for a cold winter. There is a great dying process, a great transition going on, and within the dying, there are already seeds for the new life in a few months. Most of us people love this time of great change in nature.
- Let us learn to love the great changes in our body as much as in our soul being.
- Let us learn to love the learning processes and the teachings we get during our journey on Mother Earth.
- Let us learn to let go of all that no longer feeds us, without fear.
- Let us learn to love this live as it is.
These are not easy tasks and many people are afraid to even start on this path, but it is really rewarding.
While I miss my father dearly and I am full a gratitude from having had him in my life, I also know that he had a great journey on Earth, worked hard and enjoyed his life as well and now he is on a great journey into the Light.