This is mostly about limiting beliefs. When we become aware of them, most of the work is already done. But how to address those that we are not even aware of. Where can we start?
Good indicators are those areas in our lifes, which are not working well or not working at all. What reasons and explanations are we giving ourselves for that. What would we like to have instead and why can’t we get it?
Who are those people that have the most influence on our well-being and why do we act and especially re-act so different to them, than to other people. Why do we get emotionally involved with people that seem toxic to us.
All the above are indicators to reactions that come from live-times together, are reactrions to behavior and traditions of our ancestors. All handed down the bloodline and we take it over as our parents and grandparents did.
Are you the one to break these ties and free yourself and your ancestors from these limiting beliefs?
Not so many generations ago, our western world was ruled by so called local barons. People of power who owned the land and therefore the wealth and the so-called peasants worked for them. Those ‚barons’ were often owner of their workers and the families attached to their workers. To have sex with young girls of the worker’s families, was probably part of every day life.
Promises of love and marriage would almost certainly not be respected. Under these circumstances, would it not be a good advise from a mother to her daughter, to not ever expect that one of these barons will marry you? Would it not be normal to have integrated the belief that there is no serious relationship outside and especially above your social standing?
And today, whenever you meet a good looking guy in a promising position, would you not jeopardize this relation as soon as it gets over the first meetings?
This is just one example of an underlying limiting belief that came up frequently in my clients and once it is out in the open, it is the clients choice to remain with it or remove it. Saying this not judgemental. Not everything we are aware of is ready to go away. We live and learn from it until the lesson is fully integrated and then we can let go.
My role here is it lay such traits open and let my client decide when the time is right to cut him/herself free from it.
When I un-cover such a trait with my client, there is almost always denial at first, sometimes to the extend that the client brakes the relation with me. ‚Who are you to say that this is my fault’, (and of course I never say it is hyour fault), when the guy clearly did this or that, did not show up anymore or broke the relation by sms! At the same time, I am sure that I opened the first crack of this belief. Whether the client comes back or works with someone else or works the subject in another life is not important. It is not on me to judge, when such ties have to be cut, sometimes it is on me to just crack the surface and let the volcano built up.
Tie-cutting as I do it, is a meditation. We work together in this meditation. My client does most of the work and I accompany him/her on the journey. This way, whatever I see will not be cut, if the time for my client is not right.
I love to do this in person but it works perfectly online as well!
Contact me for a free holistic coaching session to see whether your time to cut yourself free has come!